The Happiest Lives Podcast
The Happiest Lives was designed for Christian women who want to stop being disappointed in their relationships and feel more loved and loving. Here you will learn to think better, feel better, and love better.
This podcast is hosted by Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC, a licensed counselor and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist. Jill has been helping people manage their minds, process their feelings, and have better relationships for over 25 years.
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Episodes
166 episodes
E163: The Conversation
Why does it feel like nothing actually gets resolved even after you've calmed down?You've named the cycle. You've caught the flood before it swept you under. You've slowed down enough to see the story your brain was telling you...
E162: The Story You’re Telling
Why do you keep reacting the same way in conflict — even when you’re trying not to?Most of the time, the fight isn’t really about what it looks like on the surface. It’s about the meaning you’re making. When your husband say...
E161: Flooded
Why do I shut down — or can’t stop talking — when things get heated?You understood the conversation before it started. You knew what you wanted to say. And then something happened — your brain went offline, your words came out w...
E160: Why You Keep Having The Same Fight
Why do you keep having the same argument over and over — even when you promise yourself it won’t happen again?If you’ve ever gone to bed after a fight thinking we’ve been here before, this episode is for you. The topic changes ...
BONUS: What God Is Teaching Me Right Now
How do you trust God when everything in your life seems to be changing?This episode is a little different than my usual teaching episodes. Instead of continuing a series, I wanted to invite you into my own quiet time and share w...
E159: Remain in the Spiral
What do you do when anxiety takes over, and you can’t stop the spiral?You know the pattern. Something happens — a shift in your body, a moment of tension in your marriage, a number in your bank account — and before you’ve had a...
E158: God in the Laundry
Do the ordinary tasks of my day actually matter to God?You’re doing all of it — the meals, the laundry, the emails, the driving, the remembering. And somewhere in the middle of it a question surfaces. Does any of this actually ...
E157: Stop Trying To Act Spiritual
What does it mean to abide in God when your quiet time feels empty and your spiritual life feels flat?You’ve been showing up — reading your Bible, praying, doing all the things — and something still feels off. This ...
E156: Simply Remain
Are you exhausted from chasing outcomes that never quite deliver the peace you’re after?Underneath every goal is a feeling — security, love, peace, worthiness. And that feeling is already available to you through abiding in Chr...
155: What Church Hurt Is Forming in You- David and Absalom
How do I stop letting church hurt define me?You’ve probably spent a lot of time thinking about what happened. Who was wrong. What should have been done differently. And honestly, you’re probably right about most of it. But h...
154: Why You Can‘t Let It Go (especially when its church)
Have you ever left a church situation feeling like you couldn’t quite shake it — even after time passed?In this episode, Jill sits down with a panel of three women who have all experienced some form of church hurt. But this conversat...
E153: Your Pastor Is Human
Have you ever been in a church situation where something felt off, raised it, and had it go nowhere — and now you’re trying to understand why?You can’t have an honest conversation about church hurt without looking at leadership. The ...
E152: Why Church Hurt Is So Hard to Talk About
Why is church hurt so hard to sort through—even when you’re trying to approach it thoughtfully?In this episode, Jill begins a new series exploring the complexity of disappointment and tension within church communities. Not every...
BONUS EPISODE : Why You Feel So Divided
Why do so many Christian women feel emotionally exhausted, internally divided, and disconnected from themselves even when they deeply love God?In this surprise standalone episode, Jill talks about the tension many Christian wom...
E151: Boundaries, Letting Go, and Becoming Friends With Your Adult Children
How do you maintain a close relationship with your adult children while still setting healthy boundaries?In Episode 151 Jill Lillard explores one of the biggest transitions parents face as their children grow up. Parenting doesn’t end wh...
E150: Parent to Child to Adult-to-Adult: Changing the Relationship
Why does the relationship with your adult children sometimes feel tense or unclear?Many parents expect the relationship with their kids to stay mostly the same as they grow up. But adulthood changes the structure. What worked when they w...
E149: The Expectations You Have for Your Adult Children
Have you ever wondered why relationships with adult children can suddenly feel tense—even when everyone cares about each other?Often, the conflict isn’t actually about behavior. It’s about expectations.Parents carry expectations a...
E148: Letting Your Adult Children Grow Up (Mom Panel)
What happens when your child becomes an adult, and the relationship starts to change?Many parents find themselves in this stage without much guidance. The roles shift. Expectations surface. And the relationship often has to be redefined....
E147: Striving- Why Grace Changes Everything
When Self-Help Isn’t Helping (Part 4)In this final episode of the series, we bring everything together.Over the past few weeks, we’ve looked at how good ideas like discipline, mindset, emotional regulation, and belief can slowly t...
E146: Manifestation, Hustle, and the Myth of Self-Power
In this episode of When Self-Help Isn’t Helping, we look at two powerful ideas shaping our culture: manifestation and hustle.Both sound empowering.Both emphasize responsibility.Both contain partial truth.But...
E145: Stoicism, Calm, and the Self-Controlled Life
🔗 Download the free Worldview Discernment Chart that pairs with this seriesIn Part 2 of our series When Self-Help Isn’t Helping, we’re looking at a worldview that shapes much ...
E144: When Self-Help Isn't Helping
In this first episode of the When Self-Help Isn’t Helping series, we slow down and name something most of us don’t realize is happening: the quiet worldviews shaping how we handle life, emotions, and change.We talk about:<...
E143: How to Create Emotional Connection
Emotional connection isn’t built by saying the right thing or fixing the moment.It’s built when you know how to stay present—with yourself and with another person—especially when things feel awkward, uneven, or unresolved.In this ...
E142: Why We Attach The Way We Do
This is Part Three in our series Why We Keep Missing Each Other: Attunement and Why It Matters.In this episode, we slow down and look underneath our reactions to understand what’s really happening when connection feels shaky. We...
E141: Push & Pull (How We Try To Manage Connection)
This is part 2 in the series Why We Keep Missing Each Other (Attunement & Why It Matters). When connection starts to feel uncertain, most of us don’t just sit with that discomfort—we move. We either push for closeness ...
