The Happiest Lives Podcast

E125: When To Speak & When To Let Love Cover It

Jill M. Lillard Season 2025 Episode 125

This is the third episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

In this conversation, Jill explores one of the most important skills for healthy, godly relationships: discernment. How do you know when to speak up and when to let love quietly cover an offense? Both can be acts of love. Both can protect trust. Both can honor God. But knowing which response to choose in the moment takes wisdom.

Drawing from Scripture, Jill unpacks examples of Shem and Japheth covering their father Noah’s shame, and Paul confronting the Corinthian church over ongoing sin. These show two very different ways love can operate—sometimes by protecting dignity, other times by bringing sin into the light.

You’ll also learn a step-by-step discernment process that includes slowing down, praying, journaling, checking your heart posture, and preparing your words. Jill explains how to keep your response Spirit-led rather than reaction-driven, so you can walk in both truth and love.

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