
The Happiest Lives Podcast
The Happiest Lives was designed for Christian women who want to stop being disappointed in their relationships and feel more loved and loving. Here you will learn to think better, feel better, and love better.
This podcast is hosted by Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC, a licensed counselor, and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist. Jill has been helping people manage their minds, process their feelings, and have better relationships for over 25 years.
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The Happiest Lives Podcast
E108: The Habit of White Knuckling
You’re doing all the things—managing the schedule, watching the budget, keeping the peace, trying to eat clean and “be the good one.” But let’s be honest: it’s exhausting. That tight grip? That anxious push to make it all work? That’s white-knuckling.
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the habit of white-knuckling—what it is, why we do it, and why it’s not actually helping. You’ll learn the real reason your efforts leave you tired, stuck, and secretly resentful… and what to do instead.
I’ll walk you through my four-part process for turning this habit around—so you can stop pushing, start partnering with God, and move forward without losing your mind (or your soul). This isn’t about giving up. It’s about letting go the right way.
Let’s talk about the difference between striving and surrender—and how to tell when you’ve crossed the line.
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Walk through 12 meaningful sessions at your own pace—with guided conversations, practical tools, and lifetime access.
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