The Happiest Lives Podcast
The Happiest Lives was designed for Christian women who want to stop being disappointed in their relationships and feel more loved and loving. Here you will learn to think better, feel better, and love better.
This podcast is hosted by Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC, a licensed counselor, and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist. Jill has been helping people manage their minds, process their feelings, and have better relationships for over 25 years.
For application exercises and support in applying the concepts learned on the podcasts, you can access growth tools + Live Coaching inside her cost-effective coaching program: Clarity+Courage. Join and cancel anytime.
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You can email Jill at jill@thehappiestlives.com.
The Happiest Lives Podcast
E71: Defensiveness
Today, we begin a new series on defensiveness, one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse identified by John Gottman. In this episode, we explore what defensiveness is, why we experience it, and how it affects our interactions. Jill shares a personal story about feeling defensive during a family vacation and how it impacted her relationships. She introduces practical steps to manage defensiveness using the Heart Scan Coaching method.
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